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52 Weeks Of Gratefulness #11 – A Token

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In Week 11 of 52 Weeks Of Gratefulness, I give thanks to God for a token.

“That is so cool!”, I say to my wife as she pulls out her toothbrush.

I’m actually referring to her toothbrush cap that is a svelte transparent capsule with a clean silver inset. It looks like a product that came straight out of the Infinite Loop.

Today—a week or so later, I go to wash my hands and I’m greeted by this shiny capsule and a loving note.

It was the highlight of my week. I felt loved.

The fact that she heard me, she remembered, and took even one step out of her way to do that for me means the world to me. And this is not the first time.

So, when the enemy tries to convince me that I am not loved, I’m going to show him my toothbrush and recall the countless other tokens I’ve been blessed to receive.

While the token is disposable, the meaning is eternal.

I’m grateful.

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That 90’s R&B Type Love

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So, listening to 90’s R&B yesterday evening has got me in my feelings and thinking about the blissful allure of an intense, all-consuming, never-ending love that characterized our music. And, sometimes I think I want that, but I’ve learned to ask, “Is that really good?” Is the way I want to be loved healthy?

If I can be real for just a second, I will admit that I sometimes struggle with wanting to be the center of my wife’s universe. But I know that isn’t good because I lack the “weight” or kabad to hold everything in her universe together. Being the center of her universe puts me in a position to do something I’m not built for -to sustain someone else’s existence forever. Conversely, it puts my wife in a position to be sustained by something that will surely fail (even if I were perfect, I have to die at some point). Apply even a little Bible and you’ll quickly find that my looking to be central to another: to be exalted and worshiped, isn’t love. 1 Corinthians 13:4-5, “Love suffers long and is kind; love does not envy; love does not parade itself, is not puffed up; does not behave rudely, does not seek its own, is not provoked, thinks no evil…”

To be blunt the love trumpeted by most music is promoting idolatry -a diversion of attention to someone or something else for what we should be getting from God.

So, what SHOULD we want? Answer: an intense, all-consuming, never-ending love with the only one who can deliver it -God. I believe the first step in really enjoying love is to be completely satisfied with Him -alone. Only then, can we really love or be loved by others, because if God is love (1 John 4:8), to love is to share God. And, for that He has to be central.