Rules Of Engagement: A Quick-And-Dirty Guide For Effective Discipleship

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Jesus commands us to make disciples.

I’ve been giving that a good bit of thought lately and I thought I’d share what I use as a quick-and-dirty guide for discipleship.

These are three principles I personally lean onโ€”whether Iโ€™m leading a small group, walking marriage ministry, a Bible study, or just walking with another believer.

Iโ€™m offering them here in hope that they might be helpful.

๐Ÿ. ๐‚๐š๐ฌ๐ญ ๐Ž๐ฎ๐ญ ๐…๐ž๐š๐ซ: ๐…๐จ๐œ๐ฎ๐ฌ ๐จ๐ง ๐ญ๐ก๐ž ๐†๐จ๐ฅ๐, ๐๐จ๐ญ ๐ญ๐ก๐ž ๐ƒ๐ข๐ซ๐ญโฃ
When I was growing up, there was a fear of being wrongโ€”not just in the classroom, but especially in the church.โฃ
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I want to reframe that fear into discernment: ๐˜ž๐˜ฉ๐˜ข๐˜ตโ€™๐˜ด ๐˜จ๐˜ฐ๐˜ญ๐˜ฅ, ๐˜ข๐˜ฏ๐˜ฅ ๐˜ธ๐˜ฉ๐˜ข๐˜ตโ€™๐˜ด ๐˜ฏ๐˜ฐ๐˜ต?โฃ
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When someone shares, we donโ€™t need to fixate on flaws. โ€œ๐˜Š๐˜ญ๐˜ช๐˜ฏ๐˜จ ๐˜ต๐˜ฐ ๐˜ธ๐˜ฉ๐˜ข๐˜ต ๐˜ช๐˜ด ๐˜จ๐˜ฐ๐˜ฐ๐˜ฅ.โ€ (Romans 12:9)โฃ
Even if their understanding is off, a heart that aims to edify others is in itself worthy of encouragement.โฃ
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Like a miner panning for gold, weโ€™re not focused on the bits of dirt and rock, but on that precious treasure which is Christ.โฃ
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Letโ€™s pray for eyes trained to see Him, the real treasure, and help draw Him out of the Word and each other.โฃ
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๐Ÿ. ๐“๐ก๐ž ๐“๐ก๐ซ๐ž๐ž ๐’โ€™๐ฌ โ€” ๐€ ๐ƒ๐ž๐Ÿ๐ž๐ง๐ฌ๐ข๐ฏ๐ž ๐’๐ญ๐š๐ง๐œ๐ž ๐€๐ ๐š๐ข๐ง๐ฌ๐ญ ๐ƒ๐ข๐ฏ๐ข๐ฌ๐ข๐จ๐งโฃ
Division in the body of Christ often comes from selfishness:โฃ
A desire to be right, defend a position, protect a tradition, gain influence, or stay in control.โฃ
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To guard against this, I submit the ๐“๐ก๐ซ๐ž๐ž ๐’โ€™๐ฌ:โฃ
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๐‰๐ž๐ฌ๐ฎ๐ฌ ๐ข๐ฌ ๐จ๐ฎ๐ซ ๐’๐š๐ฏ๐ข๐จ๐ซ โ€“ Jesus alone saves (Acts 4:12), not our works, systems, or heritage.โฃ
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๐‰๐ž๐ฌ๐ฎ๐ฌ ๐ข๐ฌ ๐ฌ๐ฎ๐Ÿ๐Ÿ๐ข๐œ๐ข๐ž๐ง๐ญ โ€“ If we have Him, we lack nothing.โฃ
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๐‰๐ž๐ฌ๐ฎ๐ฌ ๐ฌ๐ž๐ญ๐ญ๐ฅ๐ž๐ฌ ๐ข๐ญ โ€“ His life, words, and Spirit are the final authority (Hebrews 1:2). Jesus is the answer to every question.โฃ
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This stance keeps us from being derailed by secondary disagreements or philosophical debates.โฃ
Satanโ€™s work is to divide, but Christ came to destroy the works of the devil (1 John 3:8).โฃ
When we stand in Christ Jesus, weโ€™ve already won.โฃ
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๐Ÿ‘. ๐“๐ก๐ž ๐†๐š๐ซ๐๐ž๐ง ๐จ๐Ÿ ๐†๐จ๐ ๐ˆ๐ฌ ๐–๐ข๐ฅ๐โฃ
What God is doing is far greater than anything we could organize or imagine.โฃ
We must be careful not to quench the Holy Spirit by forcing His work into our expectations.โฃ
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โ€œ๐˜๐˜ง ๐˜บ๐˜ฐ๐˜ถ ๐˜ฎ๐˜ข๐˜ฌ๐˜ฆ ๐˜”๐˜ฆ ๐˜ข๐˜ฏ ๐˜ข๐˜ญ๐˜ต๐˜ข๐˜ณ ๐˜ฐ๐˜ง ๐˜ด๐˜ต๐˜ฐ๐˜ฏ๐˜ฆ, ๐˜บ๐˜ฐ๐˜ถ ๐˜ด๐˜ฉ๐˜ข๐˜ญ๐˜ญ ๐˜ฏ๐˜ฐ๐˜ต ๐˜ฃ๐˜ถ๐˜ช๐˜ญ๐˜ฅ ๐˜ช๐˜ต ๐˜ฐ๐˜ง ๐˜ฉ๐˜ฆ๐˜ธ๐˜ฏ ๐˜ด๐˜ต๐˜ฐ๐˜ฏ๐˜ฆ; ๐˜ง๐˜ฐ๐˜ณ ๐˜ช๐˜ง ๐˜บ๐˜ฐ๐˜ถ ๐˜ถ๐˜ด๐˜ฆ ๐˜บ๐˜ฐ๐˜ถ๐˜ณ ๐˜ต๐˜ฐ๐˜ฐ๐˜ญ ๐˜ฐ๐˜ฏ ๐˜ช๐˜ต, ๐˜บ๐˜ฐ๐˜ถ ๐˜ฉ๐˜ข๐˜ท๐˜ฆ ๐˜ฑ๐˜ณ๐˜ฐ๐˜ง๐˜ข๐˜ฏ๐˜ฆ๐˜ฅ ๐˜ช๐˜ต.โ€โฃ
โ€” Exodus 20:25โฃ
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The moment we shape Godโ€™s work into something of our own design, we trade His wonder for our control.โฃ
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We see this in Acts when the Spirit fell on Gentilesโ€”to the utter amazement of the Jewish believers.โฃ
God is doing something โ€œ๐˜ฆ๐˜น๐˜ค๐˜ฆ๐˜ฆ๐˜ฅ๐˜ช๐˜ฏ๐˜จ๐˜ญ๐˜บ, ๐˜ข๐˜ฃ๐˜ถ๐˜ฏ๐˜ฅ๐˜ข๐˜ฏ๐˜ต๐˜ญ๐˜บ ๐˜ข๐˜ฃ๐˜ฐ๐˜ท๐˜ฆ ๐˜ข๐˜ญ๐˜ญ ๐˜ต๐˜ฉ๐˜ข๐˜ต ๐˜ธ๐˜ฆ ๐˜ข๐˜ด๐˜ฌ ๐˜ฐ๐˜ณ ๐˜ต๐˜ฉ๐˜ช๐˜ฏ๐˜ฌโ€ (Ephesians 3:20).โฃ
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Letโ€™s not get in the way.โฃ

Another promise kept to make progress! ๐Ÿ’ช๐Ÿพ

Originally posted on Facebook on Sunday, June 22, 2025.

Another promise kept to make progress! ๐Ÿ’ช๐Ÿพ

I said Iโ€™d only share this here with the Mission Militia:, but Iโ€™m excited to announce: Web Me Down v1.0 is LIVE! ๐ŸŽ‰

โœ… Committed the project's first GitHub repo
โœ… Launched the version 1.0 of the API
โœ… Shipped a working MVP

Web Me Down is now more than a pretty faceโ€”it works.
Paste a WordPress URL, click a button, and get Markdown that you can import into your note-taking app or knowledge management system.

Itโ€™s not perfect. But itโ€™s a real, working product.
Not flashy. But functional.

And thatโ€™s the mission: make progress.

#MissionMilitia #WeMakeProgress #WebMeDown #shipped #BuildInPublic

Your information does not help me love God, or my neighbors.

Your information does not help me love God, or my neighbors. But your experience in the Spiritโ€ฆ

Originally posted on Facebook on Friday, June 20, 2025.

Your information does not help me love God, or my neighbors.

But your experience in the Spirit does.

To worship God in Spirit and Truth means that it is not theological.

Itโ€™s not theoretical.
It's not philosophical.
Itโ€™s not an idea in our heads.

Itโ€™s experience lived in the Spirit.

Jesus says,
"Yet you have not known Him, but I know Him."
โ€” John 8:55

And,
โ€œMany will say to Me in that day, โ€˜Lord, Lord, have we not [done religious works]?โ€™
And then I will declare to them, โ€˜I never knew you; depart from Me, you who practice lawlessness!โ€™โ€
โ€” Matthew 7:22โ€“23

"Knowing" is life livedโ€”not from the head, but from the heartโ€”
the heart He gives.

Worshiping in Spirit and in Truth is to produce fruit after its own kindโ€”
to behave the way the Spirit does,
not because I know the law,
but because doing His will is now my nature.

When Jesus says, "The kingdom of heaven is like…,"
Heโ€™s not speaking conceptuallyโ€”
Heโ€™s sharing what He has seen through experience (John 3:11).

And thatโ€™s what helps us:
experience with God,
not academic theory.

As you are becoming,
as you are being born again,
as Christ is being formed in you
and is understood by way of exerciseโ€”
share.

What is it like walking with Him?
What is He like?
What did He do?
How is He helping you?

โ€œBut sanctify the Lord God in your hearts,
and always be ready to give a defense to everyone who asks you
a reason for the hope that is in you,
with meekness and fear.โ€
โ€” 1 Peter 3:15

Share how His life in you,
and His presence with you,
is changing the way you live.

Share what "the kingdom of heaven is like"โ€”
your experience living with His nature,
in Spirit and in Truth.

That helps me love God.
That helps my love my neighbor.

#Theology #WorshipInSpiritAndTruth #perfectourlove

In Week 25 of 52 Weeks of Gratefulness, I give thanks to God for aโ€ฆ

Originally posted on Facebook on Thursday, June 19, 2025.

In Week 25 of 52 Weeks of Gratefulness, I give thanks to God for a walk.

I used to be embarrassed to admit this: I didnโ€™t graduate until 2019.

I came to Mississippi State as a Computer Engineering major in 1995.

I flunked out.

I stumbled and bumbled a lot. On top of that, life was lifeing.

But God.

He used my circumstancesโ€”and even my misstepsโ€”to lead me to the good works He prepared beforehand that I should walk in them (Ephesians 2:10).

He blessed me with the wonderful gift of my wife, then my boys. And I wanted to walk in a way that set the path of life before themโ€”hoping to spare them from the way of death I was so painfully acquainted with.

By God's grace, I was able to earn six figures without a degree. I didnโ€™t need a degree.

But I went back and finished anywayโ€”not for me, but for them.

To show my children that when we aim, we finish. To show them the kind of conviction and patient perseverance required to thrive in life. And because I couldnโ€™t require of them what I wasnโ€™t willing to do myself.

So, I finished.

I finished so they would know they can finishโ€”no matter how hard things get.

My eldest son started his college career during the Covid pandemic. It was rough sledding for a minute. It was tough. But he finished.

I donโ€™t know if my finishing had anything to do with his.

But I do know this: God led me to walk in a way that didnโ€™t give him any excuses.

Either way, his finishing filled my heart with joy. It was the hope of my efforts.

God turned my shame into a stage that my children could walk across.

Iโ€™m grateful.

#52WoG #finish

Something super cool (to me) came out of last night’s Bible Studyโ€ฆ

Originally posted on Facebook on Wednesday, June 18, 2025.

Something super cool (to me) came out of last night's Bible Study which built on another Bible Study earlier that day, and it's the definition of an idol.

An idol is a destination other than God. It's a place we go for something instead of Godโ€”when God wants us to come to Him for everything, because that's the only place good things are (James 1:17).

It was a gem that collected in my heart from the diffusion of His aroma through others believers. Oh how I love Him/them so!

Thanks Brad Cox and Torey Brown for creating these spaces of communion!

#idol #idolatry #heartwords

Work is not who I am.

Work is not who I am. It's not even what I do. Work is the God-given gift and privilege ofโ€ฆ

Originally posted on Facebook on Monday, June 16, 2025.

Work is not who I am.

It's not even what I do.

Work is the God-given gift and privilege of participating in His creative work.

"Then the LORD God took the man and put him in the garden of Eden to tend and keep it."
โ€” Genesis 2:15

Work is exertion with purpose.

We become dissatisfied with work when we become disconnected from purpose (and when its return is less than what's invested).

God's purpose is God: God with us, God in us, God through us, God all in allโ€”which results in His glory that all of creation enjoys. (Psalm 104, 1 Chronicles 29:11-14)

This is lifeโ€”the true riches which Jesus, doing the work of the Father, came to give.

His work is good.

#GoodWorks #Thriveday #perfectourlove

You know what I find amazing?! In the account of Jesus’ encounterโ€ฆ

You know what I find amazing?! In the account of Jesus' encounter with the rich young ruler, theโ€ฆ

Originally posted on Facebook on Sunday, June 15, 2025.

You know what I find amazing?! In the account of Jesus' encounter with the rich young ruler, the young man walks away sad and Jesus lets him.

This is so contrary to Christian culture today, that tries to convince and convert into a way of thinking.

But Jesus' silence and stillness speaks
volumes. Jesus models true ministry here. He demonstrates that this is not a matter of the head but of the heart.

So He drops seedโ€”the Word of God that pierces even to the division of soul and spirit, and is a discerner of the thoughts and intents of the heart. (Hebrews 4:12)

The Word is both what is being planted and the implement that prepares the soil.

And if it takes root, like a great tree emerging from concrete, it will tear asunder the foundation of lies and misconceptions of our hearts and replace it with the true foundation of Itself.

But, that takes time.

And like a skilled master gardener, He patiently labors then waits.

When our desire is misplacedโ€”no theory, philosophy, or clever arguments will doโ€”our hearts have to be broken to be saved.

"But [the rich young ruler] was sad at this word, and went away sorrowful, for he had great possessions."
โ€” Mark 10:22

And, Jesus allowed him to leaveโ€”I believe to let the Word do its work. And I think He alludes to this hope in verses 25-27.

โ€œIt is easier for a camel to go through the eye of a needle than for a rich man to enter the kingdom of God.โ€
โ€” Mark 10:25

Then verse 27 reads,
"But Jesus looked at them and said, โ€œWith men it is impossible, but not with God; for with God all things are possible.โ€

The point being for us to preach and live the Word and trust it to do its work. Salvation is of God, not of manโ€”WE CANNOT DO IT.

I wouldn't want a faith I could be convinced into because I could be convinced out of it.

The goal is not to get them to join the club but to bring them under the conviction of the Holy Spirit who imparts a new heart with a new desire for God alone. (1 Corinthians 14:24-25)

So, we must stop tampering with the seed and trust it to break the hearts where they land.

We should also ask whether the distance we feel from God at times is His allowing us to leave so our hearts can break for His heart to shine through?

In either case, trust the Word.

#JesusLetHimLeave #discipleship #perfectourlove

It’s 4:00 AM.

It's 4:00 AM. The night is starting to wane. I stir. Sleep has left me. The feelings and thoughtsโ€ฆ

Originally posted on Facebook on Saturday, June 14, 2025.

It's 4:00 AM.
The night is starting to wane.

I stir. Sleep has left me.
The feelings and thoughts begin to creep in.

I'm sad.
Even though I know the accident wasn't my fault (I've rehearsed it a thousand times), I feel responsible for all the suffering this has caused my wife.

It was her car. Now it's gone.
Dealing with insurance has been a nightmare. And on top of all that, she has to buy a new one. Interest rates aren't what they were.

The added stress is visible.
And it's all my fault.

Then, I feel the brush of her arm moving across the bed.
She extends her hand for me to hold.

That was such a ministry to me.

Her outstretched hand said, "I'm with youโ€”through it all."

This is the ministry of the wifeโ€”the rib of support, always beside.

This is where I want to be with God, where circumstances do not present any risk of my refusing His outstretched hand.

I want to say, "I'm with Youโ€”through it all."

Because being with You is what I wantโ€”ABOVE ALL, come what may. Together, we can deal with everything else.

"Yet indeed I also count all things loss for the excellence of the knowledge of Christ Jesus my Lord, for whom I have suffered the loss of all things, and count them as rubbish, that I may gain Christ"
– Philippians 3:8

#WithYouThroughItAll #marriage #theministryofthewife #perfectourlove

Overcoming Satan’s attacks is often as simple as not looking whereโ€ฆ

Overcoming Satan's attacks is often as simple as not looking where he tells me to. "Look at you,โ€ฆ

Originally posted on Facebook on Friday, June 13, 2025.

Overcoming Satan's attacks is often as simple as not looking where he tells me to.

"Look at you, and how you've failed…"
"Look at this other person doing better than you…"
"Look at your circumstances…"
"Look at this thing you can have…"

These are Satan's suggestions.
But instead, I must keep my eyes on Jesus.

His voice is different.
Jesus never condemns.

Instead, He speaks like this:

"I can get you right. Leave everything holding you back…"
"Don't concern yourself with them. You follow Me…"
"Do not fear. I am the Good Shepherd…"
"All others are thieves and robbers. Only I have come that you might have lifeโ€”and have it more abundantly…"

"Follow Me."

#DontDivertYourEyes #LookAtJesus #spiritualwarfare #perfectourlove

In Week 24 of 52 Weeks of Gratefulness, I give thanks to God forโ€ฆ

In Week 24 of 52 Weeks of Gratefulness, I give thanks to God for science and engineering. We oftenโ€ฆ

Originally posted on Facebook on Thursday, June 12, 2025.

In Week 24 of 52 Weeks of Gratefulness, I give thanks to God for science and engineering.

We often joke that modern vehicles don't hold up in an accident like cars back in the day.

That is by design.

They look a mangled mess after an accident so we don't have to. They're engineered to crumple in places to absorb the impact so the force isn't transferred to the passengers.

Were it not for the grace of God and exceptional engineering, we would not have walked away from this accident.

We were banged up, but in one piece.

God bless each and every engineer involved in this vehicle's design. Your work is part of why we're still alive.

I'm grateful.

#52WoG