Rules Of Engagement: A Quick-And-Dirty Guide For Effective Discipleship

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Jesus commands us to make disciples.

I’ve been giving that a good bit of thought lately and I thought I’d share what I use as a quick-and-dirty guide for discipleship.

These are three principles I personally lean onโ€”whether Iโ€™m leading a small group, walking marriage ministry, a Bible study, or just walking with another believer.

Iโ€™m offering them here in hope that they might be helpful.

๐Ÿ. ๐‚๐š๐ฌ๐ญ ๐Ž๐ฎ๐ญ ๐…๐ž๐š๐ซ: ๐…๐จ๐œ๐ฎ๐ฌ ๐จ๐ง ๐ญ๐ก๐ž ๐†๐จ๐ฅ๐, ๐๐จ๐ญ ๐ญ๐ก๐ž ๐ƒ๐ข๐ซ๐ญโฃ
When I was growing up, there was a fear of being wrongโ€”not just in the classroom, but especially in the church.โฃ
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I want to reframe that fear into discernment: ๐˜ž๐˜ฉ๐˜ข๐˜ตโ€™๐˜ด ๐˜จ๐˜ฐ๐˜ญ๐˜ฅ, ๐˜ข๐˜ฏ๐˜ฅ ๐˜ธ๐˜ฉ๐˜ข๐˜ตโ€™๐˜ด ๐˜ฏ๐˜ฐ๐˜ต?โฃ
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When someone shares, we donโ€™t need to fixate on flaws. โ€œ๐˜Š๐˜ญ๐˜ช๐˜ฏ๐˜จ ๐˜ต๐˜ฐ ๐˜ธ๐˜ฉ๐˜ข๐˜ต ๐˜ช๐˜ด ๐˜จ๐˜ฐ๐˜ฐ๐˜ฅ.โ€ (Romans 12:9)โฃ
Even if their understanding is off, a heart that aims to edify others is in itself worthy of encouragement.โฃ
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Like a miner panning for gold, weโ€™re not focused on the bits of dirt and rock, but on that precious treasure which is Christ.โฃ
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Letโ€™s pray for eyes trained to see Him, the real treasure, and help draw Him out of the Word and each other.โฃ
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๐Ÿ. ๐“๐ก๐ž ๐“๐ก๐ซ๐ž๐ž ๐’โ€™๐ฌ โ€” ๐€ ๐ƒ๐ž๐Ÿ๐ž๐ง๐ฌ๐ข๐ฏ๐ž ๐’๐ญ๐š๐ง๐œ๐ž ๐€๐ ๐š๐ข๐ง๐ฌ๐ญ ๐ƒ๐ข๐ฏ๐ข๐ฌ๐ข๐จ๐งโฃ
Division in the body of Christ often comes from selfishness:โฃ
A desire to be right, defend a position, protect a tradition, gain influence, or stay in control.โฃ
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To guard against this, I submit the ๐“๐ก๐ซ๐ž๐ž ๐’โ€™๐ฌ:โฃ
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๐‰๐ž๐ฌ๐ฎ๐ฌ ๐ข๐ฌ ๐จ๐ฎ๐ซ ๐’๐š๐ฏ๐ข๐จ๐ซ โ€“ Jesus alone saves (Acts 4:12), not our works, systems, or heritage.โฃ
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๐‰๐ž๐ฌ๐ฎ๐ฌ ๐ข๐ฌ ๐ฌ๐ฎ๐Ÿ๐Ÿ๐ข๐œ๐ข๐ž๐ง๐ญ โ€“ If we have Him, we lack nothing.โฃ
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๐‰๐ž๐ฌ๐ฎ๐ฌ ๐ฌ๐ž๐ญ๐ญ๐ฅ๐ž๐ฌ ๐ข๐ญ โ€“ His life, words, and Spirit are the final authority (Hebrews 1:2). Jesus is the answer to every question.โฃ
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This stance keeps us from being derailed by secondary disagreements or philosophical debates.โฃ
Satanโ€™s work is to divide, but Christ came to destroy the works of the devil (1 John 3:8).โฃ
When we stand in Christ Jesus, weโ€™ve already won.โฃ
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๐Ÿ‘. ๐“๐ก๐ž ๐†๐š๐ซ๐๐ž๐ง ๐จ๐Ÿ ๐†๐จ๐ ๐ˆ๐ฌ ๐–๐ข๐ฅ๐โฃ
What God is doing is far greater than anything we could organize or imagine.โฃ
We must be careful not to quench the Holy Spirit by forcing His work into our expectations.โฃ
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โ€œ๐˜๐˜ง ๐˜บ๐˜ฐ๐˜ถ ๐˜ฎ๐˜ข๐˜ฌ๐˜ฆ ๐˜”๐˜ฆ ๐˜ข๐˜ฏ ๐˜ข๐˜ญ๐˜ต๐˜ข๐˜ณ ๐˜ฐ๐˜ง ๐˜ด๐˜ต๐˜ฐ๐˜ฏ๐˜ฆ, ๐˜บ๐˜ฐ๐˜ถ ๐˜ด๐˜ฉ๐˜ข๐˜ญ๐˜ญ ๐˜ฏ๐˜ฐ๐˜ต ๐˜ฃ๐˜ถ๐˜ช๐˜ญ๐˜ฅ ๐˜ช๐˜ต ๐˜ฐ๐˜ง ๐˜ฉ๐˜ฆ๐˜ธ๐˜ฏ ๐˜ด๐˜ต๐˜ฐ๐˜ฏ๐˜ฆ; ๐˜ง๐˜ฐ๐˜ณ ๐˜ช๐˜ง ๐˜บ๐˜ฐ๐˜ถ ๐˜ถ๐˜ด๐˜ฆ ๐˜บ๐˜ฐ๐˜ถ๐˜ณ ๐˜ต๐˜ฐ๐˜ฐ๐˜ญ ๐˜ฐ๐˜ฏ ๐˜ช๐˜ต, ๐˜บ๐˜ฐ๐˜ถ ๐˜ฉ๐˜ข๐˜ท๐˜ฆ ๐˜ฑ๐˜ณ๐˜ฐ๐˜ง๐˜ข๐˜ฏ๐˜ฆ๐˜ฅ ๐˜ช๐˜ต.โ€โฃ
โ€” Exodus 20:25โฃ
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The moment we shape Godโ€™s work into something of our own design, we trade His wonder for our control.โฃ
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We see this in Acts when the Spirit fell on Gentilesโ€”to the utter amazement of the Jewish believers.โฃ
God is doing something โ€œ๐˜ฆ๐˜น๐˜ค๐˜ฆ๐˜ฆ๐˜ฅ๐˜ช๐˜ฏ๐˜จ๐˜ญ๐˜บ, ๐˜ข๐˜ฃ๐˜ถ๐˜ฏ๐˜ฅ๐˜ข๐˜ฏ๐˜ต๐˜ญ๐˜บ ๐˜ข๐˜ฃ๐˜ฐ๐˜ท๐˜ฆ ๐˜ข๐˜ญ๐˜ญ ๐˜ต๐˜ฉ๐˜ข๐˜ต ๐˜ธ๐˜ฆ ๐˜ข๐˜ด๐˜ฌ ๐˜ฐ๐˜ณ ๐˜ต๐˜ฉ๐˜ช๐˜ฏ๐˜ฌโ€ (Ephesians 3:20).โฃ
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Letโ€™s not get in the way.โฃ

In Week 25 of 52 Weeks of Gratefulness, I give thanks to God for aโ€ฆ

Originally posted on Facebook on Thursday, June 19, 2025.

In Week 25 of 52 Weeks of Gratefulness, I give thanks to God for a walk.

I used to be embarrassed to admit this: I didnโ€™t graduate until 2019.

I came to Mississippi State as a Computer Engineering major in 1995.

I flunked out.

I stumbled and bumbled a lot. On top of that, life was lifeing.

But God.

He used my circumstancesโ€”and even my misstepsโ€”to lead me to the good works He prepared beforehand that I should walk in them (Ephesians 2:10).

He blessed me with the wonderful gift of my wife, then my boys. And I wanted to walk in a way that set the path of life before themโ€”hoping to spare them from the way of death I was so painfully acquainted with.

By God's grace, I was able to earn six figures without a degree. I didnโ€™t need a degree.

But I went back and finished anywayโ€”not for me, but for them.

To show my children that when we aim, we finish. To show them the kind of conviction and patient perseverance required to thrive in life. And because I couldnโ€™t require of them what I wasnโ€™t willing to do myself.

So, I finished.

I finished so they would know they can finishโ€”no matter how hard things get.

My eldest son started his college career during the Covid pandemic. It was rough sledding for a minute. It was tough. But he finished.

I donโ€™t know if my finishing had anything to do with his.

But I do know this: God led me to walk in a way that didnโ€™t give him any excuses.

Either way, his finishing filled my heart with joy. It was the hope of my efforts.

God turned my shame into a stage that my children could walk across.

Iโ€™m grateful.

#52WoG #finish

In Week 24 of 52 Weeks of Gratefulness, I give thanks to God forโ€ฆ

In Week 24 of 52 Weeks of Gratefulness, I give thanks to God for science and engineering. We oftenโ€ฆ

Originally posted on Facebook on Thursday, June 12, 2025.

In Week 24 of 52 Weeks of Gratefulness, I give thanks to God for science and engineering.

We often joke that modern vehicles don't hold up in an accident like cars back in the day.

That is by design.

They look a mangled mess after an accident so we don't have to. They're engineered to crumple in places to absorb the impact so the force isn't transferred to the passengers.

Were it not for the grace of God and exceptional engineering, we would not have walked away from this accident.

We were banged up, but in one piece.

God bless each and every engineer involved in this vehicle's design. Your work is part of why we're still alive.

I'm grateful.

#52WoG

In Week 23 of 52 Weeks of Gratefulness, I give thanks to God forโ€ฆ

In Week 23 of 52 Weeks of Gratefulness, I give thanks to God for an overflowing cup.รขยยฃรขยยฃ รขยยฃรขยยฃโ€ฆ

Originally posted on Facebook on Wednesday, June 4, 2025.

In Week 23 of 52 Weeks of Gratefulness, I give thanks to God for an overflowing cup.

Today, I will boast in the Lord.

God has affirmed His Word and rewarded my seeking Him.

โ€œBut without faith it is impossible to please Him, for he who comes to God must believe that He is, and that He is a rewarder of those who diligently seek Him.โ€
โ€” Hebrews 11:6

My cup runs over.

โ€œGive, and it will be given to you: good measure, pressed down, shaken together, and running over will be put into your bosom.
For with the same measure that you use, it will be measured back to you.โ€
โ€” Luke 6:38

Every time Iโ€™ve heard this passage in the past, it was from those devouring widowsโ€™ houses.
But this isnโ€™t about moneyโ€”obviously not.
How could money be put into your bosom?

No, this is about a much greater treasureโ€”
"the true riches."
And Iโ€™ve been given a tiny sliver:
the light of the knowledge of the glory of God in the face of Jesus Christ (2 Corinthians 4:6).
That is worth more than all the money in the world.

Now I see dimly,
but oh, what a wonderful, soul-filling sight!

My cup runs overโ€”
not only in the face of difficult circumstances,
but because of them.

God has used them to turn me to Him
in ways I would not have otherwiseโ€”
to show me more of His heart,
and to make His heart more of mine.

Oh, I see it now:

โ€œTherefore most gladly I will rather boast in my infirmities,
that the power of Christ may rest upon me.โ€
โ€” 2 Corinthians 12:9

My cup runs over with His goodnessโ€”
even in the presence of my enemies.
And my sincere pray is that it's overflowing into others.

Iโ€™ve got 99 problems,
but being empty ainโ€™t one.

I'm grateful.
#52WoG

In Week 21 of 52 Weeks of Gratefulness, I give thanks to Godโ€”for God.

In Week 21 of 52 Weeks of Gratefulness, I give thanks to Godรขย€ย”for God. As I pondered the manyโ€ฆ

Originally posted on Facebook on Sunday, May 25, 2025.

In Week 21 of 52 Weeks of Gratefulness, I give thanks to Godโ€”for God.

As I pondered the many things Iโ€™m grateful for, it occurred to me: these things are beams of benefit streaming to me from Godโ€”one after another.

The gifts are good, but the true prize is God.

God is the ultimate goodโ€”and that gives me everlasting hope.

Whatever Iโ€™m going throughโ€”or whatever Iโ€™m withoutโ€”because God is, I know there is good in the world.

And that makes me glad, even if it seems like Iโ€™m not experiencing it in the moment.

I rejoice in others enjoying Him, and it gives me hope that His light may one day shine on me again.

โ€œDo not be deceived, my beloved brethren. Every good gift and every perfect gift is from above, and comes down from the Father of lights, with whom there is no variation or shadow of turning.โ€
โ€” James 1:16โ€“17

There is a coming Day when I will bask in Godโ€™s lightโ€”and it will never end. (Revelation 21:23)

Iโ€™m grateful.

#52WoG

In Week 20 of 52 Weeks of Gratefulness, I give thanks to God for aโ€ฆ

Originally posted on Facebook on Thursday, May 15, 2025.

In Week 20 of 52 Weeks of Gratefulness, I give thanks to God for a prayer.

Yesterday, we took our Junior Techsโ€”students who volunteer their time to shadow the IT Department, learn about information technology, and provide support throughout our districtโ€”for an end-of-year celebration at Staffordโ€™s restaurant.

Our meals had just started arriving when a student said,
โ€œMr. Luckett, will you pray for us?โ€

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Mind you, I havenโ€™t breathed a word about God or my faith.

Then they proceeded to hold hands and bow their heads.

โ€œYes, dear one. It would be my honor to pray for youโ€”today and every day.โ€

Iโ€™m grateful.

#52WoG

In Week 18 of 52 Weeks of Gratefulness, I give thanks to God forโ€ฆ

In Week 18 of 52 Weeks of Gratefulness, I give thanks to God for sharing life. This pictureโ€ฆ

Originally posted on Facebook on Friday, May 2, 2025.

In Week 18 of 52 Weeks of Gratefulness, I give thanks to God for sharing life.

This picture captured a beautiful moment of sharing life with people I love. What made it especially wonderful was that my brother, Nehemiah Luckett, chose to share a really important moment of his life, and to give me a front-row seat to something he's chosen to give his life doing.

Today is his birthday, and I'm thankfulโ€”not only for the gift he is to the world and the gifts he continues to give through his work, but primarily and most significantly through his being in our lives.

I look forward to being front-row for how the remaining acts unfold.

I love you.

I'm grateful.

#52WoG

In Week 15 of 52 Weeks Of Gratefulness, I give thanks to God for aโ€ฆ

Originally posted on Facebook on Saturday, April 12, 2025.

In Week 15 of 52 Weeks Of Gratefulness, I give thanks to God for a help meet.

An injury landed me in a cast on my leg. I didn't think it was a big deal, but I've been surprised by the difference small things make when I'm forced to do them a different way. It's been manageableโ€”it just requires more thought and effort.

Tomorrow is trash day. I'm on the way home, thinking about whether there are any extra steps Iโ€™ll need to take to get the trash to the curb. As I crest the hill, I see the trash has already been put out by my wonderful wife.

Not too long ago, I read how Desmond Carson was celebrating his bride. He said,

"I love how we complement each other so perfectly. Where I fall short, you pick up the slack, and vice versa."

Well said.

I hear people often say that marriage is 50 + 50. That is incorrect. It's 100 + 100, so that even if one of us stumbles, we're never less than 100%.

A wifeโ€”a help meetโ€”is indeed a good thing and favor from the Lord.

I'm grateful.

#52WoG #marriage #perfectourlove

52 Weeks Of Gratefulness #13 โ€“ A Smile

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In Week 13 of 52 Weeks Of Gratefulness, I give thanks to God for a smile.

We’ve been working with some students to prepare for a cybersecurity competition.

I noticed that one of our kids stopped coming to the meetings.

So, I went to their class and asked for them by name.

They come to the door with a blank stareโ€”a palpable hardness.

I say, “Hey, I’ve missed you at the meetings. Do you want to go to the competition?”

Something in their face shifts for a second and they say, “Yeah, but I didn’t think I was good enough.”

I responded, “That’s why I’m here, because you’re one of my best”, and handed them the registration form.

Then, there was that shift again but this time it gave way to a brief smile. As though to hide it, they looked down at the form.

“You’re going to bring this back to me tomorrow?” I asked.

They nodded affirmatively and then walked back into class.

The child that walked away was different than the one that came to the door, and I’m grateful.

#52WoG

52 Weeks Of Gratefulness #12 โ€“ A Confession

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In Week 12 of 52 Weeks Of Gratefulness, I give thanks to God for a confession.

Today, I attended the Men’s Lunch that is held on Thursdays at New Horizons Christian Fellowship at 1010 Victory Lane in Starkville.

It was one of the most beautiful times of Communion I’ve experienced this year, and it all began with a brother being real and opening our discussion with, “I struggle…”

James 5:16 says,

“Confess your trespasses to one another, and pray for one another, that you may be healed. The effective, fervent prayer of a righteous man avails much.”

I don’t often see “confession” in our gatherings. Instead, we fall into churchiness and deflect or pretend that we’ve got it all together. In so doing we become guilty of what the Apostle Paul warns against in 2 Timothy 3:5 “having a form of godliness, but denying its power.”

Imagine being sick, going to the hospital, and talking about how bad someone else’s illness is. I’ll never get well doing that. We give up the power available to us when we do that. But all it takes is one person sick and desperate enough to cry out for help to change everything.

There is power in confession, there is power in prayer, there is power in His presence and He is present among His people.

“For where two or three are gathered together in My name, I am there in the midst of them.”
– Matthew 18:20

It is no coincidence that Matthew 18:20, quoted just above, is in the context of forgiveness. Hallelujah.

This brother’s confession released what God had already pre-ordained for this moment through brethren God had already prepared for this moment.

I can’t speak for the brother who confessed about whether he was healed.

But, I was.

I’m grateful.

#52WoG