I believe the unhealthy and unrealistic expectation to always be happy contributes to a lot of misery.
As Solomon wisely wrote, “There is a season for everything under heaven.” (Ecclesiastes 3)
Well-being is not the absence of storms.
Well-being is being able to weather them.
full consciousness of my feelings without relinquishing control,
anger, without sin, (Ephesians 4:26)
grief, with hope, (1 Thessalonians 4:13)
hard-pressed, yet not crushed,
perplexed, but not in despair,
persecuted, but not forsaken,
struck down, but not destroyed,
surrounded by death, but I still share life, (2 Corinthians 4:7-12)
tribulations, but I still have joy. (James 1:2)
You don’t develop such a temperament without being tempered, without difficulty. (James 1:2-4)
Storms will come. They’re a part of life, in fact, we need them to be well. Don’t hide from them. Harness them.
Don’t bring it on yourself (1 Peter 4:12-19), but expect trouble. (John 16:33, 2 Timothy 3:12) Prepare for it. Sit and glean wisdom at Jesus’ feet, fast, study, pray.
Learn to grow in strength so, like Jesus, you can weather anything and help others through the storm. (John 16:33, 2 Corinthians 1:3-4)
And, when you find yourself in a storm, count it all joy because you have sure shelter in Jesus Christ. (Matthew 7:24-25)
Not only will you and those sheltered with you not die, the storm will make you stronger. This is more than conquering.
Count it all joy.